87. Need to Say No? Here's a Handful of Tools to Help!
What if the guilt you feel every time you say "no" is actually costing you more than the yes ever could? After a peer advisory group session turned into an unexpected goldmine of ideas, I knew I had to bring it straight to you. If you're a people-pleaser, a do-gooder, or someone who feels a pang of guilt every time you turn someone down, this one's for you. I'm sharing the practical frameworks that came out of that conversation — from budgeting your time like a budget line item, to getting curious about what people actually want from you, to understanding why your "no" protects the power of your "yes." We also get into the guilt-versus-pride dynamic between how women and men tend to overcommit, and why learning to trust your body's signals might be the most important skill of all as we head into Q4.
Highlights
- Why saying no matters more than ever heading into the last stretch of Q3 and into Q4
- Budgeting your time like money: predetermine how many "yeses" you can afford to give
- Asking for the "why" behind a meeting request before automatically saying yes
- How offering a group workshop can turn one-on-one asks into a scalable win-win
- The idea that unchecked "yeses" dilute in power if you never say no
- Creating a "not now" list of things you're saying no to for this season of life
- Learning to trust your body's signals over your mind's endless search for reasons to say yes
- The difference between guilt-driven overcommitment (often seen in women) and pride-driven overcommitment (often seen in men)
- Why it's okay for "no" to come with a little guilt sometimes
Chapters
0:00 — Why Saying No Matters
2:57 — Time Budget Your Yeses
4:14 — Ask For The Why
7:09 — Offer A Group Workshop
9:09 — Protect The Power Yes
9:59 — Create A Not Now List
11:27 — Trust Your Body Signals
13:42 — Guilt, Pride, And Overcommit
16:50 — Closing Pep Talk
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